They See So Much More
Tucked into one of the interior pockets of a purse my daughter gave me for my birthday one year, was a note. In the note she told me she loved me and was thankful for our relationship and that I was her mom. While it was nice to read these words, the words that left the greatest impression were the following...
"Mom, I am so proud of you. I don't know who you see when you look in the mirror, but when I look at you I see a woman who is strong, smart, beautiful and who loves God and her family with her whole heart. You are such an example to me and I hope that someday I will be just like you."
Wow! Does she really see all that? I was both happy and humbled. I was happy because she was seeing in me the mom and woman I wanted to be. I was humbled because she was seeing in me the mom and woman I wanted to be.
Do you think about what it is your children see when they look at you? You'd better, because they are looking even when/if you don't think so. And their vision is 20/20 when it comes to seeing who you really are. They see deep down into your real self. They know the difference between who you are at home and who you are in public. They know your phone voice vs. your real voice. They know if you parent by example or are the do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do kind of parent.
Oh, and one more thing...your children don't stop looking once they leave home. In fact, they usually start looking closer and more intently once they leave home for college and to strike out on their own. So take a few minutes to stand in front of the mirror (the kind that allows you to see yourself from the inside out). Do you like what your kids are seeing?